This will be the last newsletter for 2 weeks while we take a break from the daily grind before the Xmas intensity. We'll be building up new designs to launch later this month. Dawn is especially burnt out having to be a carer for me, as well as being tasked with being the designer. If you act as someone's carer you'll understand just how exhausting it can be both physically and mentally.
She hasn't had any time for herself in the two years since I had the stroke. In some ways, it's been harder physically and mentally on her than me. Spending the last year preparing the house for sale has been such hard work too. Painting it inside and out, carrying out landscaping, laying and insulating floors, repairs and cleaning. Anyone would need a rest after doing all that.
It doesn't help that she's a perfectionist and constantly feels she's not being good enough, even when working for 12 hours a day. Me, I don't suffer from that, I can just accept that whatever I'm doing has reached a conclusion, writing especially. Dawn is the opposite and always feels there's more to do, which is a certain kind of torture and means she never rests or feels fulfilled.
So she's taking time out to do a few things for herself and take the pressure off. One of the inspirations behind moving house is just to break with our memories of me being ill and the 3 and a half months Dawn spent on her own, coming to the hospital to see me every day on the ferry. That was traumatic for both of us and while we're here, there are daily reminders of the life we had beforehand, which is quite upsetting really. I suppose we need a fresh start where everything is new, for the next chapter of life
We have a friend who, after her husband died, decided to stay in the house where he passed away. How she copes with the memories, I don't know, because I'm haunted by my able-bodied self.
I'm still writing blogs for Facebook in the mean time, adding a new Rock Quiz each week and of course doing my usual customer service.
So we'll see you soon, hopefully refreshed, on the other side.
But hey, all the T-shirts are still here to be purchased, in large quantities!
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Take care ,love your posts. As a Blyth lad ,I’ve always had a north east connection, same tastes in music and life . Keep on trukin ,marra
Best wishes to you both all the best for the future.
My husband says he really identifies with what your saying he doesn’t have a passport or Photo driving license good luck to you both and have a good break He also says he used to phone his orders in many years ago so he’s really old school said he had a really good conversation with you about the who Also loves your blogs keep on rocking from Karen and Michael your tees are the best
All the best to you and Dawn – take care of yourselves.
Sounds like you both need a good break to refresh your batteries and restock your vinyl 🤘🤘 as a carer myself I understand the hard work, both physical and emotional that goes into looking after someone, but I wouldn’t have it any other way…
Take care too both of you and will keep purchasing and reading the blogs with great interest..winning the quiz will remain elusive I fear!!